As I already mentioned in My Attachment Problem, holding onto attachments in our lives can block a large piece of our natural selves.
We can lose ourselves in how we perceive our reality.
We lead ourselves to believe we need that attachment.
It is the ideas we are telling ourselves and thus limit who we have the ability to be.
I believe it is the connections we form in our lives that live on and open up space inside of us for possibility.
Sometimes it is through our greatest challenges that we discover this part of ourselves. When we are faced with job loss, sickness, or death is often when we enter into a path of vulnerability. Despite some myths that suggest being vulnerable to be equivalent to being weak, the opposite is actually true. Allowing the space for vulnerability can only lead to a greater inner strength.
It is within this space that we open ourselves up to relinquishing that control that we so desperately want to hold onto…
There is no controlling the uncontrollable.
What would you do if you could be all of you versus the filtered you that has become your perceived version of you…
This is when the magic begins.
We move from safe to real.
We are opening up a space inside to find what matters.
We are no longer running or fighting when we feel connected to ourselves. We are open, confident, informed, imaginative, creative…and from all this…we form deeper connections.
It becomes a choice rather than a sense of being controlled.
We accept and allow for imperfections…the real stuff…and release control.
We form connections.
I feel like I am truly living when I make room for connections in my life. I am not held back by attachments that are long past. Sometimes I can convince myself I need the attachments and will allow them to linger in my life, spending my energy on my resistance to let go. However, it is in the letting go that I am revived back to life.
I’ve started to notice that moments of connections in life can pass me by when I am blinded by attachments.
When this happens, those ideas to what we thought we were attached start to drift and through letting them go we are opening ourselves up and the greatest thing transpires…we develop connections.
The idea that we are supposed to live our life in a certain order can cause many of us to miss out on what is meaningful or from living a life that matters to us. I was fooled by this idea at one point in my life. I believed what I was taught and that I was expected to follow the status quo.
When life had other plans and derailed this idea, I hit a slump.
My world crashed and in my efforts to control it all, I fell down with it. I went into that dark place that so many of us have seen.
It was when I finally stopped fighting and stayed with my feelings that my true learning began. It was during one of these moments that I can recall a switch turning on inside of me that allowed a little light to shine. And my enlightening moment was as simple as me discovering, understanding, and believing that I had a choice.
Even when we think we hit rock bottom, somehow choices exist.
For me, this was evident when I recognized the status quo was only something humans created and not the only option.
When I could see other options in life, I started to dig out of my hole. The difference was I felt stronger from my period of weakness. I allowed vulnerability to become me and this allowed me to grow.
My first connection started with myself at this moment.
Now, I cannot imagine my life without room for connections.
Our whole lives seem to revolve around a clock, but when I feel my deepest sense of living, time disappears.